Beth


First I want to say thanks to all who have been there for me in some form or another. Thanks I really appreciate it.

As the title says “I think I am back”.

So Beth dies Friday morning so after that is taken care of I head home to deal with what has happened etc. When I arrive home I find this,
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House

So this little diversion was interesting, only my house suffered any damage. There were some outdoor grills tipped over as was the out house at the quarry, but not a single piece of damage to anyone else.

Just goofy.

Well I have been fortunate that a busy social calendar has minimized the pain of the previous mentioned events. Steve (her youngest) came over and spent the night and most of the following day. We watched movies, he played xBox and I caught up on emails of people who responded. The next night Larry had what I would call “I am going out of town and I have all of this food that was brought over” potluck. The food was good and the time spent with friends and family was really nice. I am feeling better, at least I don’t fall into the dark place. Don’t get me wrong I miss her, but I know she would want me to move on and enjoy my time here as much as possible. So that’s why I am back posting.

On to new things, the insurance adjuster was here as was the guy I have contracted for my new siding. It is not hard to guess they are going to replace the entire side. Now I have to deal with the association on color matching as I do not want to reuse what is there. I am sure the siding is fine as the other 100+ units are fine but there is definitely some odd wind happenings.

Today at 6:08 am this morning Beth died, she past on in her sleep as she wanted to.

We had gathered the night before to see her and say goodbye as she really had deteriorated since the previous Sunday. Her sons and their girlfriends, David and Megan, Steve and Angelina, her brother Keith and his best friend Jo Ann, her brother Larry and his partner Jeff and myself. We all took turns visiting her throughout the day and she recognized every one of us.

I sent an email to Larry asking if I could “move in” so I could be close by for the end. Well I had already packed and arrived when I received his answer. So I went in to see Beth and she was sleeping and the movie Devils Advocate was playing on the TV next to her. Since it was on DVD I know it was a request, though ironic. I sat with her for about 1.5 hours, I kissed her several times and thanked her for a wonderful life that she had given me. While I sat there I also thought about all of the great things and good times we had together.

Later that night, we had a family meeting to see where everyone was emotionally and to make sure they are ready for what was about to happen.

Keith and Jo Ann left for the night, the kids, Jeff and Larry played dominoes. I had to leave because I forgot something. I headed out at about 10:15 pm and got back about 1130 pm. It was tough getting to sleep as I would peer over the railing of the loft to check on her.

I had checked on her at about 4:50 am and she was still breathing. Shortly after 6 am I heard her brother Larry come into the room as I was in the loft above, I looked over the railing and he looked up at me and said “she’s not breathing”. I came down the stairs and confirmed what he had said.

Beth Minnesota Science Museum 2002
Beth Minnesota Science Museum 2002

Beth Navy Pier 2002
Beth Navy Pier 2002, my favorite picture I have taken of her.

For those of you who never knew her or maybe only through my writing you missed a wonderful person. She always had a spark of immaturity that made her always seem younger than she really was.

She was the first person in my life who I felt true love for and received it just as well. I loved her more than anything in life, she will truly be missed.

Minutes after the end.
Minutes after the end

Elizabeth Ann Loretto McDonnell
10-08-1956 / 08-20-2010 53 Years Old
Bethy, I love you.

Dave

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