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Today at 6:08 am this morning Beth died, she past on in her sleep as she wanted to.

We had gathered the night before to see her and say goodbye as she really had deteriorated since the previous Sunday. Her sons and their girlfriends, David and Megan, Steve and Angelina, her brother Keith and his best friend Jo Ann, her brother Larry and his partner Jeff and myself. We all took turns visiting her throughout the day and she recognized every one of us.

I sent an email to Larry asking if I could “move in” so I could be close by for the end. Well I had already packed and arrived when I received his answer. So I went in to see Beth and she was sleeping and the movie Devils Advocate was playing on the TV next to her. Since it was on DVD I know it was a request, though ironic. I sat with her for about 1.5 hours, I kissed her several times and thanked her for a wonderful life that she had given me. While I sat there I also thought about all of the great things and good times we had together.

Later that night, we had a family meeting to see where everyone was emotionally and to make sure they are ready for what was about to happen.

Keith and Jo Ann left for the night, the kids, Jeff and Larry played dominoes. I had to leave because I forgot something. I headed out at about 10:15 pm and got back about 1130 pm. It was tough getting to sleep as I would peer over the railing of the loft to check on her.

I had checked on her at about 4:50 am and she was still breathing. Shortly after 6 am I heard her brother Larry come into the room as I was in the loft above, I looked over the railing and he looked up at me and said “she’s not breathing”. I came down the stairs and confirmed what he had said.

Beth Minnesota Science Museum 2002
Beth Minnesota Science Museum 2002

Beth Navy Pier 2002
Beth Navy Pier 2002, my favorite picture I have taken of her.

For those of you who never knew her or maybe only through my writing you missed a wonderful person. She always had a spark of immaturity that made her always seem younger than she really was.

She was the first person in my life who I felt true love for and received it just as well. I loved her more than anything in life, she will truly be missed.

Minutes after the end.
Minutes after the end

Elizabeth Ann Loretto McDonnell
10-08-1956 / 08-20-2010 53 Years Old
Bethy, I love you.


Well Beth is all moved into her brothers place and she seems a lot happier. No longer does she have to look around her place and think about things that need to be done. She was up in the morning to see her brother off to work and stayed up a while longer watching some TV.

I arrived early to sit/visit with her, she seemed in really good spirits and fairly well rested. I set up her laptop with the docking station, printer and wireless network. I also brought over the computer I built for her in case the company wants their equipment back, so it’s all setup as well. I checked in on work since I was on call and all was quiet. Beth took a nap around 5:30 and woke up about 8:00 pm and had some dinner. She stayed up and talked with Jeff and I and was a few shows with us. She then headed back to bed for the night. I finished a few things for her, documented her nightly meds and told her that I was not going to stay over as planned. Since I work from home it just felt better being at home with the way I have things setup.

I headed out about 9:30 pm and let Jeff know Beths status before I left.

I’ll be going over to her house and cutting the yard and checking on things in general to make sure things are as they should be. I am glad it’s not a 100 degrees around here, though it looks like it’s going to be that again in a few more day, DRATS!!